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Pramugari Garuda Ini Gendong Seorang Nenek Saat Turun Pesawat

Noval Dhwinuari Antony – detikNews

Pramugari Garuda Ini Gendong Seorang Nenek Saat Turun PesawatFoto: Istimewa

Jakarta – Pramugari maskapai Garuda Indonesia menunjukkan pelayanan maksimal dengan membantu seorang nenek, penumpang untuk turun keluar dari pesawat. Pramugari itu bahkan menggendong nenek tersebut.

Pelayanan sigap ini terjadi pada penerbangan Garuda nomor penerbangan GA 821 dari Kuala Lumpur tujuan Jakarta. Adalah Ninik, pramugari yang juga flight service manager yang membantu menggendong nenek.

Dari foto yang diterima detikcom, Sabtu (7/1/2017) Ninik membungkukkan badannya saat menggendong nenek. Tampak pramugari lainnya ikut membantu Ninik.

Saat dikonfirmasi, General Manager Garuda Indonesia Kantor Cabang Solo Aryo Wijoseno menyebut kejadian ini terjadi hari ini.

“Menurut info tim saya, hari ini. Namun, belum di-cross check validitas tanggalnya,” kata Aryo

Use This Dad’s ‘X Plan’ And Your Teen Will Always Have A Way Out Of A Bad Situation

Image via Bert Fulks

This dad devised an ingenious code to help kids escape sticky social situations

Peer pressure puts kids in tough spots. Often, young people are forced to do things they don’t always want to do, because refusing would jeopardize their social standing, and when you’re a teenager, your social standing is everything.

This dad came up with a smart way to help kids out of those binds, without losing face.

Bert Fulks is a youth minister and educator at Empty Stone Ministry with three kids of his own. Every week, he spends an hour with teens struggling through addiction, and in a recent session, he asked a simple question.

“How many of you have found yourself in situations where things started happening that you weren’t comfortable with, but you stuck around, mainly because you felt like you didn’t have a way out?”

Every kid raised their hand. And the dad came up with a great idea.

As Fulks wrote on his blog, he remembers the feeling. “I still recall my first time drinking beer at a friend’s house in junior high school—I hated it, but I felt cornered.  As an adult, that now seems silly, but it was my reality at the time.  “Peer pressure” was a frivolous term for an often silent, but very real thing; and I certainly couldn’t call my parents and ask them to rescue me.  I wasn’t supposed to be there in the first place. ”

Now, thanks to his “X-Plan,” kids have a simple way out.

Fulks uses it with his own kids, and here’s how it works. If his son is in a tough situation he doesn’t want to be in, he simply texts one of his parents the letter “X” and upon receiving it, his mom or dad calls him and tells him they need him to come home ASAP. It allows the kid to bail with a bulletproof excuse – his parents are lame! – without raising an eyebrow. Because if there’s anything more universal to teenagers than peer pressure, it’s uncool parents.

Image via Bert Fulks
It’s a pretty smart idea, but there’s one more piece without which the X-Plan can’t function: “The X-plan comes with the agreement that we will pass no judgments and ask no questions (even if he is 10 miles away from where he’s supposed to be).”

Trust goes both ways (can you tell I’m a dad?) and if we parents want our kids to rely on us, we need to give them a reason to. If we don’t, they’ll never take advantage of the X-Plan.

Like Fulks, we can all remember times when we were backed into uncomfortable situations, stuck between a rock and a hard place, and with potentially disappointed and angry parents waiting in the wings to boot. The X-Plan offers kids an opportunity to avoid some of those tough spots, and, by offering our trust, allows parents to offer them the help they need in their most difficult moments.

Fulks ends his blog post with a pleas to share his X-Plan. “I beg you to share this piece.  If this somehow gives just one kid a way out of a bad situation, we can all feel privileged to have been a part of that.”


*Source from Dad’s X-Plan text for teens to escape bad situation

Are you eating your dinner at the right or wrong time?

Are you eating your dinner at the right or wrong time?

Getty Images / Lucia Lambriex

If you’re an American citizen, chances are you eat dinner between 5 and 8pm. If you’re European or South American, you might not eat until 10 at night. But according to a new study published by The Obesity Society, eating dinner at an earlier time – or not at all – may help you burn more fat at night, and curb hunger swings, therefore assisting your weight loss.

Courtney Peterson, PhD and leader of the study at Pennington Biomedical Research Center, presented the study’s findings at The Obesity Society Annual Meeting in New Orleans, Louisiana.

Dr. Peterson said, “Eating only during a much smaller window of time than people are typically used to may help with weight loss, specifically by increasing our body’s ability to burn fat and protein.”

“We found that eating between 8am and 2pm followed by an 18-hour daily fast burned more fat and kept appetite levels more even throughout the day, in comparison to eating between 8am and 8pm, which is average for Americans,” Dr. Peterson explained.

Most Americans are inclined to skip breakfast (the most important meal of the day, many say) as a step towards weight loss. But this new study proved that skipping dinner, or what some may consider a late lunch, is actually more effective. “Many aspects of metabolism are at their optimal functioning in the morning,” the study says.

“Therefore, eating in alignment with the body’s circadian clock by eating earlier in the day can positively influence health,” including fat metabolism. Time to whip up some pancakes, readers.

To conduct the study, Dr. Peterson and colleagues followed eleven overweight men and women over four days of eating between 8am and 2pm, and then four days of eating between 8am and 8pm. All those participating followed both eating schedules, ate the same number of calories during both schedules, and completed supervised testing.After the eight days were up, the researchers tested the impact of early Time-Restricted Feeding on calories burned, fat burned and appetite. Researchers found that early Time-Restricted Feeding, “improved fat and protein oxidation, and daily hunger swings among other health indicators.”

Dale Schoeller, PhD, FTOS spokesperson for The Obesity Society and Professor Emeritus at the University of Wisconsin, is excited to report that there is finally proof that eating times have a direct affect on our metabolisms. He said, “With additional research on early-time restricted feeding on humans, we can create a more complete picture of how this innovative method can best help prevent and treat obesity.”

For now, this study sheds light on how late-night snacking really can affect your overall health. But until there’s enough research to prove that eating after 2pm is a dire no-no, don’t go changing the time of your dinner reservations just yet.

*Source : Hello Giggles – Body Matter

14 Hacks to Score Serious Hotel Upgrades Without Dropping the Cash

14 Hacks to Score Serious Hotel Upgrades Without Dropping the Cash

Rack rates are for amateurs.

“The room you booked isn’t available yet… but I’ve got a bigger one open and you can have it.” After a stressful day of travel, is there anything more exhilarating than getting upgraded when you check into your hotel? If you keep a few simple things in mind, you can make it happen on a regular basis.

Before we get to it, though, a few caveats. Let’s be realistic: You’re not going to book a standard room and get upgraded to the presidential suite. Set your expectations a bit lower and aim for a better room or a junior suite. Second, leave your entitlement at the door. If you act like a jerk at check-in, you’re almost certainly going to lose out. Finally, none of these are guaranteed to work every time. But they’re all worth trying. And when those upgrades do come through, they’re all the more satisfying.

1.  Just ask — but be cool.

First off, be polite, gracious, and smile at the person helping you at check-in. Then ask if there are any upgrades available. It might seem simplistic, but you won’t get anything if you don’t ask for it. Apart from that, just being nice can go a long way. Second, the last thing a front-desk agent wants is for you to set off a domino effect of people asking for upgrades as they check in. So be discreet and try to ask for an upgrade when other guests aren’t around or standing right behind you.

2.  Time it right.

Speaking of which, try to check in at a slow time of day. Hotel desks get busy right around the check-in (around 2 to 3 p.m.) and check-out times (around 11 a.m. or noon) and you’re less likely to get special consideration. If you come later in the day, around 5 or 6 p.m., most folks will already have checked in. That means that, while some other guests might have taken up all the upgradable space, front-desk agents also have a better sense of which higher-category rooms or suites are going to go unsold for the night and might be more willing to put you in one.

In a larger sense, plan your trips strategically. If your hotel is in a business destination, chances are it’s going to be busier during the week and quiet on weekends, so book a Friday or Saturday night there and you might have your pick of rooms. In leisure destinations, try going over shoulder or off season when hotel rates are down, properties are eager to please the few guests they have, and better rooms are liable to be sitting empty anyway.

3.  Be specific.

Don’t just ask for a nicer room or for a suite. Have a specific request in mind, like a room with an ocean view, or a corner room or one on a higher floor that might be quieter. If you give the check-in agent something concrete to look for, it makes it much easier on them to find something that might make you happy. Which, remember, they’re trying to do.

4.  The shorter the better.

Your chances of an upgrade can improve dramatically if your reservation is only for a night or two. Because hotels are dealing with a set inventory of rooms, it’s much easier to upgrade a guest a nicer room for a single night than a whole week.

5.  Loyalty counts.

Whereas elite frequent fliers seem to be having a harder and harder time getting upgrades, hotel elites are still enjoying some pretty great benefits in this respect. If you can concentrate your travel activity to stay at one chain of hotels, that can translate into elite status — the upper tiers of which (meaning, you’ve stayed a lot each year) confer benefits like confirmable room and suite upgrades, not to mention free breakfast, club lounge access, concierge services, and more.

6.  Try something new.

It might seem counterintuitive to gun for an upgrade by booking a new hotel since it’s usually right after a hotel opens that everyone wants to get in and see it. However, during this time, hotels are usually not operating at full capacity. They’re still training staff, some rooms might not be open, and other facilities like a restaurant or spa may not be available yet. At the same time, they are also hoping that their first guests tell all their friends about how great their stay was. So you might find yourself in a room or suite in a higher category than the one you booked.

7.  Use a travel agent.

No, seriously — travel agents are still around. What’s more, because of the networks through which they book hotels, such as Virtuoso or Starwood Luxury Privileges, they can often guarantee room upgrades along with other perks like on-property dining or spa credits. Many agents also have personal relationships with the managers of hotel properties they book and can call them directly to ask for upgrades.

8.  Maximize your credit card.

Among the benefits of several travel rewards credit cards are hotel-booking benefits. The Platinum Card from American Express, for example, gives you access to the Fine Hotels & Resorts program where you can book hotel stays at luxury properties around the world. FHR has negotiated special deals where guests can enjoy benefits such as third- or fourth-night-free discounts, dining and spa credits, late checkout, and either space-available or guaranteed upgrades (of usually just one category). The rates you pay are usually close to those you get by booking directly through a hotel, so for the same price, you get a ton of extra value.

9.  Announce special occasions.

This is another one that shouldn’t be abused, but if you are actually traveling for a special occasion such as a birthday, anniversary, or honeymoon, email the hotel about it beforehand. Many hotels want to give guests the best experience possible and will go out of their way to make a special occasion that much more memorable. And if you don’t get an upgrade, maybe you’ll at least get a plate of cookies or a bottle of champagne.

10.  If something’s wrong, point it out.

Here’s a page out of Shannon Beador’s book! But this one comes with a stern warning: Don’t complain about something in your room, or make up an issue, just to get an upgrade. However, if something is wrong, like it smells of smoke, or the television isn’t working, you’re within your rights to complain about it and see if the hotel can move you. Though they’ll usually try to put you in the same category of room, it often happens that they will have to shift your room category upwards to find something that’s available. Again, this should only be done in cases where something is actually wrong with the room and the hotel cannot fix it in a timely manner.

11.  Tweet yo-self.

Everyone’s on social media these days, including individual hotel representatives and brand executives. If you have a stay coming up that you’re excited about, tweet, Snapchat, Instagram, whatever, about it. Ask the hotel’s concierge what you should do during your visit, or what the restaurant’s specials are. Chances are, you’ll get a response, and maybe a little welcome amenity or even an upgrade when you arrive. (And that’sa page out of Bethenny Frankel’s book!)

12.  Everything’s negotiable.

You’re checking in late in the day. You ask about an upgrade to a suite. The front-desk agent says that there is a suite available but it’s $500 more for the night. Offer $100. See what happens. If the hotel is fairly certain that a nicer room or suite is going unbooked for the night (which is often the case late in the day), it may be willing to haggle on the price of an upgrade and you could get a much nicer room for a fraction of the usual cost.

13.  Try old-school palm persuasion.

This is old school but effective. Slide a bill across the desk to the representative checking you in. The denomination should reflect the level of the establishment. Though there’s no guarantee of an upgrade, this method is still anecdotally quite successful. Generally, if they can’t upgrade you, they won’t accept the tip, so you’re no worse off for having tried.

14.  Start higher.

If you, like almost everyone else, book the cheapest category of room, you’ll have a harder time upgrading. Spend even just a little more on a slightly better room, or book a refundable rate where you pay the hotel directly for your stay rather than ahead of time. The more you are paying, the more likely the hotel is to do something nice for you, including giving you a nicer room.


*Source from Jet Set BravoTV

Surat Terbuka Tentang Suriah, Untuk Kang Emil

Surat Terbuka Tentang Suriah, Untuk Kang Emil


Kang Emil, kumaha damang?
Perkenalkan saya Dina, bukan orang Sunda. Tapi, karena saya menikah dengan urang Sunda, dan seluruh proses studi saya dari S1 hingga S3-Hubungan Internasional saya jalani di Bandung (Unpad), ikatan emosional saya dengan Sunda sangatlah kuat. Di banyak kota di Indonesia yang saya kunjungi, banyak yang mengira bahwa saya adalah orang Sunda karena saya sudah terhegemoni oleh logat Sunda.

Saya terdorong menulis surat ini setelah melihat 2 postingan di Fanpage Kang Emil tentang Suriah. Postingan pertama, share foto bertajuk Save Aleppo.


Masih di hari yang sama, selang beberapa jam kemudian, kang Emil memposting status tanpa foto.


Selengkapnya kalimat Kang Emil:


Saya mencermati perbandingan jumlah share  dan komentar di kedua status itu. Buat saya, ini menjadi bukti bahwa isu Suriah adalah isu monolog. Gerakan “Save Aleppo” dianggap sebagai fakta yang tak perlu dipertanyakan lagi. Status “Save Aleppo” di-share 25ribu lebih tapi hanya ada 3100 komentar. Sementara status yang mengajak untuk fokus saja pada isu kemanusiaan, hanya di-share 5300  kali tapi dikomentari 3700 kali.[data 19/12, 20.00]

Saya menemukan banyak komentar menyalah-nyalahkan nada “netral” Kang Emil. Antara lain:



Lihatlah betapa mereka tidak rela Kang Emil keluar dari narasi yang mereka sukai. Mereka inginnya Kang Emil menghujat Bashar Assad. Bahkan menuduh Kang Emil takut kehilangan follower.

Pemaksaan sebuah monolog. Inilah yang membuat saya prihatin dan ingin menulis surat ini. Sejak konflik Suriah meletus, telah terjadi pergeseran cara berinteraksi di antara sesama anak bangsa. Ada kelompok-kelompok yang memaksakan narasi mereka soal Suriah, dan siapa saja yang mengkritisi, akan mereka libas dengan cara ‘pembunuhan karakter’. Saya sudah 4 tahun dihujat secara masif di media sosial hanya karena mengatakan yang terjadi di Suriah bukan perang saudara (civil war) melainkan proxy war (ada negara-negara besar yang ingin menggulingkan rezim Assad dengan alasan ekonomi-politik, namun memanfaatkan pasukan perpanjangan tangan mereka). Tentu, saya bisa memberikan sangat banyak argumen atas analisis saya ini (bisa dibaca di blog ini, atau buku saya “Prahara Suriah”).

Pemaksaan monolog yang saya maksud adalah sikap merasa paling benar dan menolak dialog. Awalnya memang terkait Suriah, yang jauhnya 8700-an km dari Bandung. Tapi sikap seperti ini bagaikan virus, semakin luas menjangkiti banyak pihak, sehingga menjadi sebuah sindrom kebencian terhadap mereka yang berbeda, diisukan berbeda, diisukan sesat, diisukan menghina Islam, diisukan mengkristenisasi, dll.

Yang menyedihkan, menurut sejumlah riset, Tanah Pasundan dinobatkan sebagai daerah yang paling intoleran se-Indonesia karena banyaknya kasus-kasus kekerasan atas nama agama yang dilakukan oleh kaum mayoritas terhadap kelompok minoritas. Ada 41 perda yang dianggap diskriminatif dan intoleran seperti penyegelan, penutupan rumah ibadah, pembubaran ibadah kelompok atau agama tertentu, hingga kekerasan fisik.

Tidakkah ini terasa sangat ganjil? Tatar Sunda selama ini dikenal dengan alamnya yang indah dan perilaku warganya yang someah dengan tutur bahasa yang halus.

Kasus pembubaran secara paksa prosesi ibadah ummat Kristiani oleh sekelompok orang yang menamakan diri sebagai Pembela Ahlu Sunnah (PAS) adalah contoh paling mutakhir. Jajaran kepolisian Kota Bandung dan Jawa Barat terkesan membiarkan kasus pelanggaran hukum ini. Sedangkan Kang Aher hanya menyebut bahwa itu adalah kasus kecil. Untunglah ada pejabat seperti Kang Emil. Terlihat sekali bahwa Kang Emil sangat terganggu dengan kasus yang memalukan itu. Akang dengan tegas menuntut PAS agar meminta maaf. Kalau tidak, mereka akan dinyatakan oleh Kang Emil sebagai kelompok terlarang di kota Bandung. Akang pasti ingat sempat dibully juga tahun lalu karena dianggap “membiarkan” penganut mazhab Syiah melakukan peringatan Asyura di Lapangan Sidolig.  Tindakan Akang jelas beda dengan walikota tetangga sebelah yang rapat bersama oknum yang masuk dalam daftar teroris Al Qaida yang dirilis PBB dan kemudian mengeluarkan surat larangan pelaksanaan Asyura di daerahnya.

Tapi Kang, saya melihat bahwa perlindungan Kang Emil terhadap hak-hak kaum minoritas akan menjadi sesuatu yang kurang “berumur panjang” jika akar masalahnya tidak disentuh. Masalah baru akan muncul dan muncul lagi.

Di mana akar masalahnya? Mari kita mulai diskusikan dengan menggunakan foto “Save Aleppo” yang Kang Emil share. Semua orang, termasuk saya, sangat sedih melihat foto-foto anak kecil korban perang itu. Ini perlu digarisbawahi. Jadi, jangan ada tuduhan bahwa saya mengkritisi gerakan Save Aleppo ini sebagai sikap tidak peduli pada korban. Justru di sinilah anehnya: korban di Suriah itu sangat banyak. Pasukan “mujahidin” dengan senjata-senjata canggih yang disuplai dari AS dan Eropa sejak 2012 sangat banyak melakukan pembantaian (videonya bertebaran di youtube). Mengapa sekarang yang diteriakkan hanya “Save Aleppo”? Dan pertanyaan utamanya: apakah benar tentara Suriah dan Rusia membantai warga sipil di Aleppo? Kalau benar, mengapa foto dan video palsu melulu yang bisa disodorkan sebagai bukti? [penjelasan ada di bawah]

Sesungguhnya, Save Aleppo adalah gerakan global dengan narasi “menyelamatkan Aleppo dari kekejaman tentara Suriah dan Rusia”. So, ini bukan frasa yang netral. Saat satu kelompok menggunakan tagar Save Aleppo, para pengamat Timteng biasanya langsung mampu mendeteksi mereka siapa, dari kelompok mana.  Dan sialnya, gerakan global ini berkaitan erat dengan nasib bangsa kita. Akan saya paparkan nanti.

Kang Emil menyatakan pernah ke Suriah. Saya juga. Kita yang pernah jalan-jalan ke Suriah sebelum perang, sudah menyaksikan sendiri bahwa Suriah adalah negara yang sangat indah dan damai. Orang-orangnya someah, dengan bahasa Arab beraksen amat lembut khas Mediterania. Sejak lama, ada ratusan mahasiswa Indonesia Sunni yang kuliah di sana, belajar dari ulama-ulama Sunni, sebagian sudah pulang selamat, hidup, dan jadi ustadz di berbagai pesantren. Bagaimana bisa, mendadak 4 tahun terakhir (sejak 2012) disebarkan narasi bahwa orang Sunni dibantai orang Syiah di Suriah? Ketika awalnya aksi-aksi demo menentang pemerintah muncul di Suriah tahun 2011 (sebagaimana juga terjadi di negara-negara Arab lain), tuntutannya demokratisasi. Bashar Assad pun segera mengakomodasi, antara lain dibentuk UUD baru yang membatasi masa kekuasaan presiden dan mengatur pemilu yang demokratis, membubarkan UU anti subversif yang dibuat ayahnya, dll. Lalu, kok ujug-ujug berdatangan para “mujahidin” dari 100-an negara dunia yang menyatakan ingin “mendirikan khilafah” di Suriah? Kemarin demokratisasi, sekarang kok khilafah? Lieur tah.

Sebagai politisi Kang Emil pasti tahu, siapa saja kelompok atau ormas yang aktif menyerukan jihad di Suriah dan aktif menggalang dana. Sekali lagi, semua orang pasti sedih melihat ada orang-orang yang menderita akibat perang; dan mendoakan agar perang segera selesai. Problemnya adalah, kelompok-kelompok tersebut berkeliling dari masjid ke masjid, dari kampus ke kampus, menggalang dana untuk Suriah dengan menggunakan data palsu, foto HOAX, dan kebencian.

Berikut ini beberapa buktinya. Saya ambil 3 foto secara acak dari foto “Save Aleppo” yang Kang Emil share itu.

Foto 1


Foto di atas saya masukkan ke google image. Saya dapati foto ini:


Terlihat foto yang sama sudah pernah diposting tahun 2015. Jelas bukan Aleppo Desember 2016.

Foto 2


Saya masukkan lagi ke Google Image, keluar foto ini, diposting 2013. Jelas bukan kejadian di Aleppo pada tahun 2016.


Foto 3


Dengan bantuan Google Image, saya dapatkan foto ini dipakai sebuah situs berbahasa Arab, berita mengenai anak-anak Yaman, diposting 29 Maret 2016. Jadi, lagi-lagi, bukan Aleppo Desember 2016.


Tentu butuh waktu cukup lama kalau ingin tau foto asli (pemosting pertama) foto-foto tersebut. Sejak 2012 saya dan teman-teman sesama facebooker sudah menemukan sangat banyak foto hoax, lagi dan lagi. Kompilasi foto hoax Suriah (123 halaman PDF) bisa diunduh di sini.

Salah satu dampak buruk kemajuan teknologi adalah mudahnya sebuah berita tersebar tanpa filter atau klarifikasi. Yang jadi problem besar: para pemaksa monolog menghadapi dengan keras siapa saja yang berani melakukan klarifikasi. Tak mampu berargumen, yang mereka lakukan adalah “kill the messenger”.

Lalu apa hubungannya dengan nasib bangsa ini?

Kebencian itu bagaikan vampir. Satu menggigit yang lain. Yang lain menggigit yang lain lagi. Lalu, dalam waktu singkat, begitu banyak muncul para pembenci di negeri ini. Awalnya Suriah, dan Syiah Indonesia jadi bulan-bulanan kebencian. Syiah bukan Islam! Tungtungna mah: mari kumpulkan dana untuk membantu saudara Sunni kita di Suriah yang dibantai Syiah!! Lalu, objek kebencian pun meluas. Semua pembenci pun bersuara dengan satu nada satu ritme, bagaikan zombi. Kyai anu Syiah! Jokowi Syiah (plus PKI, liberal, China dll)! Ahmadiyah sesat! Hati-hati Kristenisasi! Awas China! Komunis! PKI!

Apa jadinya bangsa ini kalau kebencian terus meraja lela? Saya tidak akan menyebut nama. Tapi faktanya, semua kebencian ini dibawa oleh kelompok-kelompok yang sama dan Akang pasti tahu, siapa yang saya maksud. Semua kelompok ini memiliki akar ideologi yang sama, yang gejalanya adalah kebencian, takfirisme, anti-dialog, dan pemaksa monolog. Akar ideologi mereka bukanlah berasal dari Tatar Sunda, tapi diimpor dari negeri jauh.

Karena itu, melalui surat ini, berlandaskan cinta saya pada Tatar Sunda, saya mengusulkan kepada Kang Emil untuk memulai gerakan budaya massal kembali kepada filosofi Sunda: alus laur, hade tangtung; someah hade ka semah; lungguh timpuh tapi mancur pamor elmuna; jembar ku panalar. Jika Bandung sukses, semoga gerakan ini bisa diperluas di berbagai kota lain di Jabar maupun Indonesia pada umumnya.

Semoga Tatar Sunda kembali menjadi bunga yang semerbak seperti dulu, dan tidak lagi dicatat sebagai wilayah paling intoleran di negeri ini.

Hapunten dan Haturnuhun….